Breaking Free from Rejection and Emotional Dependencies – Part 2

Coming out of rejection and emotional dependencies: God wants to fully restore you

There are wounds that cannot be seen, but they scream. Rejection is one of them. A voice constantly whispering: “You’re worthless,” “No one loves you,” “You’re not enough…” And if you don’t fight that voice, it shapes your self-image, poisons your relationships, traps you in prisons of silence or performance. But you see, that’s not what God says about you. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made,” says David in Psalm 139:14. That is what God thinks of you. And until that truth replaces the lie of rejection, you will continue to suffer inwardly, even while singing the most beautiful hymns.

So here’s the good news: God loves you. Not with a conditional or passing love. No. He loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). And this love has the power to fully restore you, to free you from the voices of the past, to erase the images of abandonment, to cast into the sea the memories of humiliation. Yes, you can come out of rejection. And this camp was a radiant demonstration that it is possible.

Recognize, expose and reject the spirit of rejection

The first step to healing is recognizing. As long as you keep telling yourself “this is normal,” or “everyone goes through this,” you prevent God from intervening. The devil’s lie is to convince you it’s not a problem. But today, you must get indignant. You must say: “No! My life will not be determined by yesterday’s wounds!”

Crescence, one of the witnesses at the camp, shared how all her life she tried to make others believe she didn’t need anyone. Behind her rebellion, behind her harshness toward her father, what she really thirsted for was a gaze of love, a word of acceptance. Do you know the root of it? Rejection. But it took her collapsing in tears before God, stopping all self-justification, finally saying: “Yes Lord, I need love, I need Your gaze.” Only then did the Holy Spirit begin the healing.

Maybe you weren’t intentionally rejected. Maybe you interpreted certain attitudes from your parents, a teacher, a pastor, or a friend as rejection. But now is not the time to blame. It’s time to heal. Stop justifying your pain through the wounds of others. Forgive. Expose the spirit of rejection. Cast it out of your life. You were not chosen to be a prisoner of rejection. You were saved to be free!

God’s love is the truth that shatters every stronghold of rejection

What Mattéo experienced is a powerful demonstration of the grace of God. Rejected and mocked because of Tourette’s Syndrome, he faced ridicule, abandonment, isolation, daily humiliation. Even his own family didn’t understand. His friends had replaced him with others. He was lost, chained by anger, vices and thoughts of death. But one night, alone, he said to God: “Why am I suffering so much?” And for the first time in his life, he sought God. Not deliverance. Not healing. Just God.

That’s when everything changed. He opened the Bible on the “OliBible” app, and while reading, he—someone who constantly twitched and moved—was suddenly still, at peace, seized by a presence. It was God’s love that entered. The love revealed in the verses of Romans 5:8 –

But God proves His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

And that truth didn’t stay in his head. It sank deep into his gut. It produced awareness. A consciousness that Jesus loved him. And it was the awareness of God’s love that set him free.

When you know you are loved, looks, silence and mockery no longer faze you. When you know your identity is “loved by God,” you no longer need to please others to be accepted. Mattéo understood: no one can love like God loves. It’s by discovering the love God has for us that we are healed from the need to be validated by people.

Meditate on the Word until your inner image is transformed

You may have heard hundreds of messages about God’s love. But until your heart is saturated with that truth, you remain vulnerable. Jean-Marc had been abandoned, humiliated, and even ended up homeless with his family. His story could have been a never-ending tragedy. Except one day, he said: “I want to come out of rejection. I want to live something different.”

So he started reading again. Listening. Chewing on the Word. He reread all the books written by Apostle Ivan, every sermon on freedom in Christ. Then he went further: he began to speak to his soul. He declared verses in the street, in the silence, sometimes shouting. His words became hammers against his inner strongholds:

  • “Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you…” (Isaiah 43:4)
  • “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son…” (John 3:16)
  • “We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

He wasn’t just reading the Word anymore. He was breathing it. He was swallowing it. He was proclaiming it. He was singing it.

And you—what are you doing with the Word you hear? You cannot overcome rejection without saturation. Not with one verse read once. You must build a new thought system within. You must press truth into your heart like an iron smooths a wrinkled shirt. Do you want the wound to leave, deeply? Then meditate, proclaim, write, sing, and start again. Every day.

Choose to forgive—not for them, but to free yourself

One of the major keys is forgiveness. Not the “comfortable” kind that we utter from the lips. No, the real kind—the one that sets you free. You think your father, your mother, your ex, or your abusers don’t deserve your forgiveness? That might seem legitimate. But the devil is lying to you. He wants you to become the guardian of your own prison.

Apostle Ivan said it powerfully: “You think you’re keeping them locked up. In reality, you’ve become your own jailer.” As long as you refuse to release those who hurt you, you remain imprisoned. Sometimes, those very people have already asked God for forgiveness, have already been forgiven. But you keep them locked away in your heart. You are blocking your own progress.

Decide today that you will no longer be a living penitentiary. Free yourself by forgiving. Forgive, not because they deserve it, but because Jesus did it for you. Remember: the people who hurt you were themselves prisoners. They too were rejected, despised, wounded. They are not your enemy. The enemy is the spirit that controlled them. Have you forgotten what Jesus said on the cross?

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34)

This kind of forgiveness will deliver you more than any exorcism ever could.

Declare war. Tolerate no cohabitation

God’s plan is not for you to live in cohabitation with rejection. His goal is to form Christ in you—and only Christ. You can’t be a mixed temple. It’s either fear or the Holy Spirit. Either hatred or love. Refuse cohabitation! Refuse to be torn between two identities. Say “no” to every argument from hell. Say “no” to the tempter who tries to disguise himself as a comforter.

You are God’s dwelling place. And that spirit of rejection has no legal right to dwell alongside God’s glory in you! Cast it out! With the Word, with revelation. Go! Rise up in defiance!

Let’s pray together

1. Lord, I refuse to legitimize rejection. I refuse to justify myself. Today I choose to forgive. I choose to tear down every stronghold that has risen against the knowledge of God. Rejection, you leave my life. I am a new creation. I am loved. I am wanted. I am precious. I am chosen!

2. Father, I press Your Word into my heart. I proclaim it. I sing it. I refuse to coexist with a lie. I want to be a temple of divine exclusivity, filled only with Your presence, in Jesus’ name!

🙏 If you’ve never given your life to Jesus, say this prayer in faith:

Lord Jesus, I recognize that I need You. I believe that You died for my sins and that You rose again. Today, I accept You as my Lord and Savior. Transform my life and lead me on Your path. Amen.

At the heart of the Bible

  • Isaiah 43:4 – Because you are precious in My sight
  • Romans 8:1-2 – There is now no condemnation
  • 1 John 4:10 – Love is not that we loved God
  • Psalm 139:14 – I praise You because I am wonderfully made
  • Romans 12:1 – A living sacrifice
  • Luke 9:23 – Take up your cross daily

You were not created to lament, but to shine. You are loved with an everlasting love. You were not rejected—you are chosen.

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