DAY 2 – SINGLES SEMINAR – Apostle Yvan & Ps Modestine CASTANOU

God’s design for marriage: preparation, discernment and restoration

We have entered a generation where the institution of marriage is attacked, devalued, and scorned. But God has not changed; His plan for marriage remains perfect. Why so many failures? Why so much prolonged loneliness? Why are some people stuck, not moving forward toward marriage? Today, God wants to restore His original vision of marriage, break false thought patterns, and heal broken hearts.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the sexually immoral and the adulterers. (Hebrews 13:4)

This is not an option; it is a divine command! If you want to step into marriage according to God’s design, you must be ready to build it on solid foundations.

Marriage is not about feelings, but about decision

Too many people think marriage is all about emotions. “I love him,” “I feel something special.” But let’s look at how God instituted the first marriage. Adam wakes up, sees Eve, and proclaims:

This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. (Genesis 2:23)

He doesn’t say, “I have butterflies in my stomach.” He IDENTIFIES his counterpart, the one God had destined for him.

God’s design for marriage is not based on fluctuating emotions! It is a decision that commits you for life. Jesus didn’t wait to “feel” something before giving Himself to us. He loved us even before we existed. That’s why marriage must be based on love as a decision, not on emotional, unstable love. If you don’t understand this now, then tomorrow, at the first marital challenge, you’ll question everything.

Women, stop waiting for a man’s emotions to stabilize before agreeing. Men, stop running away just because you “don’t feel anything anymore.” Biblical love is consistency, commitment, sacrifice.

Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church. (Ephesians 5:25)

This means that even when the Church was rebellious, Jesus kept loving, teaching, correcting, and restoring.

Men, are you ready to love ADAMANTLY, beyond the seasons, beyond imperfections? Women, are you ready to believe in your husband’s mission, even when he seems to falter? If not, wait before entering into a covenant you’re not prepared to carry.

The importance of being healed before entering marriage

Many want to get married, but they are still bound by their past. Some carry wounds of rejection, deep emotional disappointments, and hope marriage will heal everything. FATAL MISTAKE! Marriage is not a hospital, it’s not where healing happens. Healing comes BEFORE entering, because if you come with open wounds, you’re likely to bring more pain and confusion.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (Psalm 147:3)

Before entering marriage, take the time to sit before God. Expose your wounds to Him, weep before Him, let Him touch your broken soul. As long as you aren’t healed, you’ll see everything through the lens of your wounds.

A simple reaction from your spouse can revive past traumas, and instead of building on peace, you’ll build on bitterness and conflict. If you still feel outrage when thinking about your family history, if you fear that your marriage will be like your parents’, that’s a warning sign.

DON’T COUNT ON MARRIAGE TO HEAL YOU. Go find your restoration in Christ right now!

Understanding the spiritual heritage handed down to you

Some are bound not because of personal wounds, but because of spiritual claims, family legacies. In some families, no one marries, divorce is systematic, men are unfaithful generation after generation.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy… (John 10:10)

You who are reading this, ask yourself this question: What spiritual legacy have I received?

But today, I tell you: YOU CAN BREAK FREE! By declaring biblical truth, by breaking claims through prayer, by refusing to be a victim of ancestral consequences, YOU CAN WRITE A NEW STORY.

The kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force. (Matthew 11:12)

Developing faith to choose the right partner

There are seasons when God wants to do something in your life, but if you lack spiritual sensitivity, you might miss it.

Many miss their marriage season out of carelessness, fear, or simply because they’re not attentive to what God is sending. One day, someone will say: “If only I had known, that sister was there, that brother was there, but back then I was blind.”

Don’t be blinded too. God won’t open the heavens to come down personally and tell you who to choose. He’ll give you principles, signs, but it’s YOUR COMMITMENT that will do the rest.

A son of God, a daughter of God, does not walk by the flesh but by the Spirit! Don’t let impatience lead you into bad choices. God wants to bless your marriage, but your faith must be firm and unshakable.

Let’s pray together

If you’ve never given your life to Jesus, say this prayer in faith:

Lord Jesus, I acknowledge that I need You. I believe that You died for my sins and that You rose again. Today, I accept You as my Lord and Savior. Transform my life and lead me on Your path. Amen.